If we accept the truth and take responsibility for it, we naturally see ourselves in a good light and if we fail to take responsibility for our life and actions, that estimation falls into danger. Self-esteem occurs naturally when we choose to live according to reason and our own principles.Only if we have a rational approach to our emotions can we be free of paralysing self-doubt, depression and fear. Simply having the awareness that emotions must be contained within a larger personal life philosophy. We think of happiness as an emotion, but it is one that stems from values that have been conciously chosen and developed. We are happy when we achieve or fulfill what is most important to us. When we deny or erode those value, we suffer. The idea of self-esteem is a feel good phenomenon, rather, it is a deep need that cannot be satisfied by shallow means. It must come from within like a muscle, will get stronger the more we develop it. At some point, we just need to hold on to the pain beat by beat until we realised that we are ready to forgive about everything past, even future.
